Relationships are beautiful. A man holding and woman in Mexico in the sunlight.
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Who explicitly taught you how to be in a relationship?

I bet nobody.

Now that you’re thinking about it, also consider this: if someone had taught you how, how much better would you, nay, we all be at them?

I suspect a lot better at them as well as have less strife within them and maybe, just maybe, have less divorce.

Do you agree?

If so, what should someone have taught or what would you have wanted someone to have taught you? Better yet, what could you teach someone?

a collection of lockets in different sizes, shapes, and colors in Cologne, Germany in Western Europe at the Hohenzollernbrücke Bridge.
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Over the past few months I have been working on myself. God’s been so faithful and reliable, as always, during this time.

It’s difficult, but of incalculable value. It’s also a long process.

Like, really long.

#Relationship Goals

But though 2020 is just about up, and it’s seemed to simultaneously be the shortest and also the longest year for many of us, I’ve managed to acquire new skills (i.e., knitting & gardening), read more, and yes, work on being the best me in relationships.

It’s still a work in progress, though.

But in my research, I came across one interesting book by a Tulsa pastor called Relationship Goals.

It’s new. It was released April 2020 and has gone on to become a national bestseller.


I mean, in the six months in-between publishing and me purchasing a copy it became a bestseller?

5 Interesting Points from Relationship Goals

Are we really that bad at relationships, or is #relationship goals that clutch of a hashtag?

I think both, honestly. And though the point of this blog post is not of a book review, you can read that here, I did want to leave you with some interesting points from the book so that you can make your own conclusions:

  1. Most people aren’t taught by anyone how to be in a relationship, but parents and guardians should.
  2. There’s a large swath of people that enter into relationships aimlessly: they’ve no foreseeable goal.
  3. What was the one thing your parents or guardians taught you about sex (I bet I can guess, especially if you grew up in a religious household)?
  4. The bonds we make with others, especially sexual, are not easily broken.
  5. There ought to be three (you read that right) persons in your marriage and indeed all of your relationships.


Intrigued much?

Go read the book! Let’s talk. I’m very curious about your thoughts about it. You can read more about mine here.

Comment below and tell me why one the 5 point above is most intriguing to you.

2 Thoughts

  1. Eye think this is a great article for raising the questions about where and what we learn about relationship intimacy, etc. These are concepts that call for necessary reflection!
    Eye love your blogs! Thank u.u for sharing!


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